Speaking the Truth in Love
S. Martin, D. D. Ephesians 4:15 But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ: The Spirit in which the truth is spoken is as important as the utterance of truth itself. I. A FEW ILLUSTRATIONS OF SPEAKING THE TRUTH IN LOVE. 1. If I speak the truth in love, I shall delight in all, who exhibit that truth, even though in many things they differ from me. 2. If I speak the truth in love I shall rejoice in the exhibition of truth, even by those who are personally offensive or injurious to me. This thing Paul did (Philippians 1:15). 3. If I speak the truth in love I shall not seek to magnify myself by the utterance of the truth, at the price of the degradation or disparagement of others. 4. If I speak the truth in love I shall defend it in a loving spirit. 5. If I speak the truth in love, I shall be moved by a loving purpose in the utterance of truth. My spirit will be benevolent and my aim will be within the sphere of love. II. SOME CONSIDERATIONS BY WHICH WE MAYBE MOVED TO ENDEAVOUR WHENEVER WE SPEAK THE TRUTH TO SPEAK IN LOVE. 1. Christian truth is revealed as a means of bringing us men back to love. The apostasy of man is a wandering from love. The moral restoration of man is restoration to perfect love. And Christian truth is revealed as a means of restoring us to love. 2. Christian truth is best illustrated and enforced by the voice, and by the countenance, and by the hands of love. 3. No aim or object, however important, can justify the transgression of the law which demands perfect love. If it be right to be bitter and unloving in speaking the truth, it would be right to steal or to kill for the truth's sake. 4. Except as we speak the truth in love, we cannot expect to spread widely the knowledge of the truth. The man who speaks the truth, but not in love, may succeed in diffusing it; but he who speaks it in love will surely prosper. The one is like a man sowing good seed while a rough wind is blowing, or when surrounded by fowls, which devour it up — the other is like a man sowing when the atmosphere is calm, and no creature is near to prevent the seed falling into the ground. 5. Unless we speak the truth in love we are liable to depart from the truth. Between the state of our affections and our religious beliefs there is a close and abiding connection. Departure from love, if it be more than temporary, will involve some departure from the truth. He that loveth not, knoweth not God, for God is love. 6. There are temptations incident to speaking the truth, and manifold temptations connected with much speaking, and these are best met and resisted by the power of love. He who speaks the truth is in danger of making his advocacy of the truth a personal matter — a means of exalting himself, and of serving himself, and he is in jeopardy of enlisting for his service pride and vanity; but he who speaks the truth in love, loses himself, and forgets himself, and becomes absorbed in the manifestation of the truth. Thus speaking, the speaker is to the truth, as the easel is to a painting, and as a candlestick is to a light. 7. Schism is promoted if the truth is not spoken in love. 8. We are servants of the Father, Son, and Holy Ghost, in speaking the truth, only so far as we speak in love. Failing here, we are the servants of some sinful lust or passion. We wear the livery of truth as our professed Master, and do the work in that livery of another master, who is opposed to him whom we profess to serve. We admit that it is very difficult in some circumstances to speak in love. The anger which is aroused by contradiction, the fear of being worsted which is called into play by opposition, the desire for a creditable share of personal strength, which is awakened, with its attendant pride and vanity, unite to render it difficult. But a true and loyal Christian is not a man to put aside a duty because it is difficult. It was a difficult matter to him to repent, but he has repented; difficult to believe, but he has believed. He is the child of a Father who only doeth wondrous things. Truth needs not the service of passion, yea nothing so dissevers it as passion when set to serve it. The spirit of truth is withal the spirit of meekness. (S. Martin, D. D.) Parallel Verses KJV: But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ: WEB: but speaking truth in love, we may grow up in all things into him, who is the head, Christ;